Who am I?

WHO AM I?

Lisa T. King

November Baby,  Nineteen Hundred Seventy

Daughter, Wife, Mom, and Friend

Saved and Baptized

I love my family first and foremost.

I love my husband more than I show him.

Being a Mom is my greatest Blessing!

I am thankful for my friends.

Loyal

Honest

Sensitive

Always try to do my best as a wife and a mother, although I honestly never feel successful.

Trying to work toward getting out of the pit my life is currently in.

I think children are our greatest treasures!

Adopted by my Dad

Forgiving

Misunderstood

Stay at Home Mom!

I don’t like competition and am very non-competitive.  (Married to the very opposite!)

I wish I felt more accomplished.

Purple and Pink brighten my day!

I miss my Dad and Nanny EVERY DAY!!

I LOVE Books!

I enjoy Computers, Photography and Scrapbooking.

Do not trust easily!

Worrier

Depression is a part of my life.

Believe in the POWER of prayer!

Feel very alone, even though people are always around me.

Always want the best for my children.

Sweets are my weakness.

Spring is my favorite Season.

I absolutely LOVE Babies!

I decided to do this post to help me reflect on myself. I have always heard it is hard to actually write down characteristics about ourselves, and that has been very true.  It has been a great experience though because it has helped me to see what I am feeling at this time in my life.  Life is an ever changing journey and reflecting on where we are now can help us to see where we might want to head later.  I look forward to seeing the years ahead and how this list will evolve!

What do I do?

Well Today, Day 6, Monday of the Every day in May Link-Up, I am supposed to answer the question:  “If you couldn’t answer with your job, how would you answer the question, ‘what do you do’?” Well since I don’t have a JOB I will share what I DO!!  I am a Stay at Home Mom.  Quite contrary to what a lot of people think… I do A LOT of THINGS while I am at home.  Some days you can’t tell what I did, but I definitely don’t sit around and eat Bon Bon’s watching Soap Operas!  (Although I sure wish the ones I kept up with were still on for background noise!)  I will share what a typical day at the King household consists of!

5:45 – 8:00

I get up to take my shower.

I try to get my clothes on and hair dried to a certain degree of presentable.

Tim gets up and get Z up for his shower.

I try to check my email and the weather.

I get C and G up and we head downstairs for breakfast.

I start packing lunches while refilling drinks, cereal bowls, or any other request my three little guys have.

Make sure C is getting his hair and teeth brushed.  Have Z help me get G dressed.

Have all lunches and bags ready to go for going to school.  (We are in a carpool and every other week I have to take Z to school.)

Z is picked up or we have to head out to take him first before heading to the elementary school with C and another boy from our neighborhood.  G goes with us as well.

If Z is picked up we do not leave for the elementary school until this time.  The boys have to go to the gym until 7:50 so they prefer not to get to school before that.

Come home around 8:00

On, M, W, Th I get G finished getting ready.  He brushes his teeth and hair and we gather his book bag.

We head to Wee School for 8:30 drop off.

Every day I try to do my kitchen clean up, make beds, vacuum,  start laundry, empty dishwasher, etc. , the things that need to be done to keep the house manageable.   I will usually use the  days G is at Wee School to do things I can do easier without a child in tow, such as going to the Dr., going shopping for clothes, gifts, groceries, household items, etc., running other errands, or I will come home to do things I need quiet time to complete such as making phone calls, paying bills, computer work, etc.

I pick G up at 12:30.  We come home and I continue with whatever I need to finish up before our afternoon starts.

On Monday and Friday after getting Z and C off to their schools, G and I come home and work on all of those normal daily jobs and then other things that are on my To-Do list to tackle or G and I do some playing or having fun time doing things.  

Every day, G and I head out at 2:45 to start afternoon pick up.  We go and get C first and then Z.  Then we head home.  I get snacks for the boys and let them take some time to decompress from school.

4:00 C starts homework and I go through his planner or Take Home Tuesday while in the same room to help if he has homework questions.

5:00 We start our evening.  Each day is different but our usual activities consist of us having supper,  the boys play, we go to activities they are involved in, and usually head upstairs for bath time no later than 8:00.  Then the boys play until about 8:30 and we get them in bed.  Z goes to bed by 9:30.  Then Tim and I have some time to talk and he is asleep by 10:00 and I try to get to sleep by midnight.

Left Top to Bottom Right:  These are a few pictures from my day today.  I vacuumed, G played his 3DS, I packed lunch and got some extra bags of snacks bagged up for the rest of the week, cleaned up our new kitchen table from breakfast.  (C picked out these flowers for me on Saturday when going to the store with his Dad. I love them!)

What I DOSo that is What I Do on a typical day/week!!  Of course,  things happen that cause my days to get changed around and then I have to play catch up on the things I don’t get done.  I do not ever feel totally caught up on any chore. There is always something to do in a house of 5 (while M is at college) or 6.  I am learning that I need time for myself and need to get that in my schedule as well.  I am trying to get the bigger projects taken care of so I can feel more comfortable taking that time.  I know I am a better Wife and Mom when I have time to decompress!

 

People will never forget how you made them feel…

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Today I will be caught up with my posting for the link up to Blog Every Day in May.  Today on Day 4, Saturday I am supposed to post about my favorite quote (from a person, from a book, etc) and then share why I love it.  Well my favorite quote by Maya Angelou is pictured above.  I love this quote because I believe we are supposed to treat others as we want to be treated. I honestly believe that this quote is true.  We do not always remember words but we have a hard time forgetting feelings.




I’m Uncomfortable

Ok,  In keeping on with catching up on the Link-Up  Blog Every Day in May I am going to post about:    Day 3, Friday: Things that make you uncomfortable.

There are many things that can make me uncomfortable but today I will post about a few that come to my mind.
1. Being Confined:  I do not at all like to be in any type of confinement.  I do not like to be held down, held tightly, being in tight places, being in a crowd,  etc. I am not sure why these situations make me uncomfortable.  I do not have a recollection of anything happening to me that would be the cause, but I sure know that it makes me uncomfortable.

2.  People Who Treat Others Inferior:  I do not at all like to be around anyone that makes me think  they are better than me or others.  Treat me or someone I am around this way and you will definitely not be someone I will ever be comfortable  or want to be around.

3.  Talking in Front of a Group:  I just don’t like standing up and all eyes being on me.  It is something I have worked on and no matter how much I try I never have gotten myself used to it.  I start to sweat, get nervous, and just get tongue tied while speaking.  This is just not something for me.  Maybe it goes back to my last item of not wanting others to feel inferior.  To me when you stand up and make people listen you are showing superiority to a certain degree so maybe that is why I am not comfortable.  Anyway, Sit me down in a room of people and I will sit and conversate all day, but don’t have me stand up or I will clam up!

I am sure those of you that know me best can come up with some things that they know make me uncomfortable. We all have these vices and know what they are.  We may not always understand why we have them,  but we know they are real.  It’s great to sit and think about them and reflect on them.




Not the typical…. Adoption

Today, I am catching up on the Link-up that I mentioned yesterday. Day 2, Thursday, May 2: I am supposed to educate you on something I know a lot about or are good at. Well I am not sure I know A LOT  and I am certainly NOT an expert on this subject, but I am very well aware of how it has touched my life.  I mentioned in my last post that my Mom was a single mom when I was born and that  I was adopted by my Dad.  Well, adoption, is something that has been a big part of my life that I do not openly talk about.   Although it is a big part of my  life, I don’t even know how to adequately express my inner most feelings about it!  I saw a a picture with a quote on Facebook yesterday, that,  for the first time, helped me to have the words that described what happens to me when when I try to explain how my being adopted has touch my life.

Sometimes

This post is supposed to tell about something we know a lot about or are good at.  I am not sure I am good at being adopted, but I do know a lot about the  feelings I have about it.  I also have a pretty clear knowledge that many other adoptees share many of the same feelings that I do.  I have always had an attraction to want to talk to others that were adopted to see if what I was feeling was common and normal.  I haven’t been able to get my questions cleared up by other adoptees, but through counseling many times I have found out  that many of these feelings are quite common among others that were adopted.  Although, my adoption is a bit different because I was only adopted by one parent and I did not find out I was adopted until I was 13 years old, I know that we have similar thought processes that go on in our minds about our adoption.  I think we all can’t help but wonder:  Why didn’t or birth parent want to have us in their lives?  What was the circumstance that brought them to the decision to decide they didn’t want to be a parent to us.  What do they look like?  What does our extended family look like?  What were they like?  What are they like now?  Do I have any of their personality traits?  Did I get my curly hair from them?  Are they good people?  Do they ever wonder about me?  Do they wish they knew me?  Are they happy?Do they have a good life?  Do they have other children?   All of these and so much more have been questions I have wondered about through the years on either one or many occasions. I can’t help but to know that others that are adopted have wondered the same things.

I have also had many feelings about being adopted.  I am not sure that all of these hold true for other adoptees due to the fact our circumstances are different but I am sure some of them are pretty common.   I have wanted to feel like I belonged.  I knew I belonged  to the family I had,  since learning I was adopted, but  there has  always been a part of me that has felt detached  or just different from them.  I have wanted to get over the feeling of worrying the people I loved would want to leave. This feeling, again, maybe from me not finding out I was adopted until I was 13 and feeling like the life I had was gone and I was forced to live a life different from what I thought mine was all those years. I have wanted to be confident in who I am in all aspects of my life.  Most of all I have just wanted the whole situation to not be a part of my life.  I just wanted my life to be totally “real” in all ways.  I wanted to be a biological part of my family so I wouldn’t forever feel different.

I also know, or would think, that all adoptees feel a forever gratefulness to the people that cared enough about us to make us a part of their family.  I never for once wasn’t thankful to my Dad for the life he gave me or to his family for their willingness to allow me to be a part of their family.  I had a great life and knew I was loved just for the sheer fact that my Dad chose to be my father.  I think that knowing someone actually wanted you as theirs is a feeling that people who are not adopted will never have the priviledge of feeling.

So, in being adopted I know that many of the questions and feelings I have had in my life have also been very similar to what others that have been adopted would feel. I always feel a closeness to other people when I find out they were adopted.  It is almost like we are a clique of our own with the knowledge of what it feels like that can’t be felt by others nor can we easily explain.  I wouldn’t change who I am for a minute.  I know it has brought me where God had planned for me to be.  I am thankful daily for every experience that I have been given through the fact that I am a product of adoption.




My Life in 250 word or Less (Definitely NOT Less)

My best friend’s daughter, who is an AWESOME blogger, joined a link-up, Blog every day in May.  I read her post yesterday and the May 1 post topic was to tell about your life in 250 words or less.  I agree with T,  250 words or less sure keeps our thoughts on what we consider the most important highlights of our life.  I wanted to join in, although behind already by two days, so I thought I would give it a try for the first day anyway.  I am not sure how well I will keep up with each and every post for the month, or that I even want to, as you know life has kept my blogging quite sporadic lately. I just thought I would give this the best try I can, without any promises.   Anyway,  here is a new post and a link-up.  Thanks T for sharing this on your blog.

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Day 1, Wednesday: The story of your life in 250 words or less (or one paragraph… no one will be counting your words… probably.)                                                                      

Wow this was a huge undertaking for someone that has lived, probably, more than half of her life. Here it goes… My Life (So Far) As I Know It (250 words or less)  I can assure you it is NOT less!!

 

I was born November 30, 1970 in Ft. Lauderdale, Florida to a single mother from Pittsburgh, PA.  A little over a year later she got married. Soon after, her husband made one of the best decisions ever made for my life, and adopted me. I gained three siblings and a Dad all in one day. Some of my best memories were the years after while living in FL.  In 1980 a job transfer for my Dad moved us to a small town in NC where I’ve lived since.  I attended Elementary, MS, HS and some community college. During HS my first job was at a convenience store my parents owned and then on to the company my Dad started.  I had an over three year relationship in high school that I ended when I was 20.  In May 1991 I met a, perfect,  great-looking, dark-haired, blue-eyed, hard- working, motorcycle racing, guy.  He had also just ended a long relationship and  wasn’t  looking for anything serious.  Two months later were engaged and May 1992 we were married. So much for not wanting anything serious!  My husband started working at my Dad’s company soon after and is now VP/General Manager. We started our family in 1994 and now have a daughter and three sons who are 18, 14, 8, and 5.  I became a SAHM in 2001.  My family is my life and this blog is about my love for it!